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In an August 2014 report from UsWeekly, 32-year-old hit maker Beyonce had been asking longtime friend Gwyneth Paltrow for advice on how to end her marriage to the 44-year-old music mogul Jay Z in the best way possible. The weekly claimed the Crazy In Love singer was impressed with how the Oscar winner had parted ways with Coldplay’s Chris Martin in the spring after 10 years of marriage. The Single Ladies crooner, like Paltrow, was expected to spend time with her musician spouse after telling the world their marriage was over.

All very interesting really; after all, if the inclination so takes us, we can read nearly every day about so called ‘irreconcilable differences’ between couples. The problem is, too many of these articles and we can actually start to believe that they really exist. After all, discounting the extreme 10% of cases involving intolerable physical and mental cruelty, the balance of all these so called problems amount to nothing more, (in American vernacular terms), than ‘pure crap’. It’s merely about subjugating one’s own selfish desires and perceived needs in favour of one’s partner. Its knowing that the worst day of one’s life will pale by comparison to what’s coming the very next day and the day after that, and yet with no end seemingly ever in sight, anger can unexpectedly be replaced by forgiveness, introspection by ‘warts and all’ self analysis, and tears by laughter. In the final analysis, we can all get sick and tired of being sick and tired. The trick is determining just how irritating we all truly are, and if our self realisation is less than flattering, then why would anyone living with us come to any different conclusion? By and large, irreconcilable differences are figments of our imagination. They exist because we want them to exist. Beyonce’s not fooling me, and she shouldn’t fool you.